Change isn’t the easiest thing to deal with. That could be a move from your home town. Maybe you aren’t allowed to dance anymore for time, money, or another reason. (If that’s your hobby). It may even be a death of a loved one. Living life without a something, a someone, or an environment can be hard. It will be. But, here, we are going to talk about dealing with change.
Change is uncomfortable.
Change is annoying.
Change is scary.
Change is undefined.
Change is an adventure.
Change is something new.
Change is exciting.
Change is a learning experience.
Although change can be scary and annoying it is also an adventure and a learning experience. If you don’t change then you don’t learn and grow. Trials produce steadfastness (James 1:3). And Romans 5:3-4 also teaches this. Trials produce good virtues. The Bible says people will know good people by their fruit. (Matt. 7:15-20). Now, don’t give me wrong. I don’t thing change is easy. But who said life was easy? Whoever told you life was easy was ignorant or lying.
Let’s Take This Question by Question.
Yes! Change is great. But, it’s also true that we don’t need to change or be in change constantly. Sometimes we need to settle, be comfortable and sound, but change is good because it gets us used to do different environments and times. It makes us more adaptable. It toughens us up; which all of those things are good. Right? Yes. Yes. And yes. Now that we have established change is good, (Romans 5:3-4, James 1:3), let’s move on to the next question.
I’m not saying you need change as soon as you’re comfortable. Sometimes it’s not a choice, it’s forced upon you. This isn’t about changing everything every day, it’s about changing when it’s good and going along with change that may or may not be your choice. For example, if you’re parents tell you y’all are going to move, instead of complaining and sulking, figure out how you want to start fresh in a new house. Which room is yours? How can you decorate the walls? Maybe you can ask your Mom if you can add things to your room. Like, if you don’t have a bookshelf now maybe there is a perfect corner for one in your new space. Also, this would be a great time to get rid of lots of your old stuff, things you don’t use/need/want anymore, or give it to younger siblings that may appreciate it more.
Now, you can always make a change yourself.
Get rid of some stuff. (Hope’s Closet!)
Re-organize your books, desk, closet, etc.
Take on more crafts, Bible studies, reading, writing, etc. (Try to get more things in your schedule if you’re not too busy. Instead of going with your old habits make new ones. Less TV, more reading. Less fiction, more non-fiction.) -Not that fiction is bad in any sense. I love fiction. But, non-fiction books tend to teach you more about you, the world, and God.
These may not seem like huge changes to you; they really aren’t big. But, they are changes, and sometimes truly hard for people. Including me with some of them.
Sometimes we see someone else who needs change. That may be the change with us, the same change we are going through, or a completely different change. When people are self-destructing they need change. When people are forced to go through change they may need help coping. This specific question goes with change that needs to happen with that person.
Change isn’t usually welcomed by a person who needs it. How you help people that need change is difficult. Talk to them, explain why you’re saying what you’re saying, and be along side them through everything.
In other words, don’t just tell them they are messed up, need change, and then leave them to deal with it. Help them through it. Whatever they go through is going to probably be hard, depending on the change they need, and it’s your job to help them. (You did bring it up and to their attention in the first place!) And even if you don’t do the first steps and see a person (friend, family member, etc.) changing on their own you can help them. Encourage them. Go through it with them. Give advice if ‘you’ve been there before.’ It’s awesome to have a friend help you through your problems and change. (I’ve been on both sides, so I know how it feels).
Then there’s that one person who is constantly changing and can’t stay still. I’ve met a few people who are constantly changing something about them, or trying to change things about others. Sometimes people don’t need change, so don’t push them to be different.
IMPORTANT: You’re not pushing people to change themselves, just something about them, or a problem they have that you see them suffering through. Or, it may be because it’s fun! It could be deep or light-hearted depending on the change and the situation itself.
You don’t want to change your true self as a whole, just things about you.
For example: Destructive…
I can change my whole personality. Change my room. Everything. I am barely the same.
For example: Sounds good…
I can change some things that are wrong with me. I may be too prideful (humble myself) I may be selfish (practice generosity) I may talk too much without meaning, (think before you speak).
You see the differences? You’re not being someone else, you’re becoming a better you. And that starts today. Not Monday. Not with someone else.
I hope this was helpful. If change comes buckle up and try to learn from it, grow from it, and take those verses into your heart and grow. 😀 I love you all, and talk soon!