I was nominated for Honor Thy Mother Tag by Kaelyn! Thanks, girl! ❤
- Thank the person who nominated you to participate.
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- Copy and paste the meaning of this tag into your post.
- Answer the questions.
- Nominate one or more people to participate.
- Enjoy the rest of your month!
The Meaning of the Tag:
A mother is someone who loves her child unconditionally, nourishes them, protects them always, teaches them values, disciplines them fairly, and wants the best for them. For that, we should always, ALWAYS have respect for our mothers. They are designed to bring beautiful life into this world and nurture that precious life as God created them to. Mother’s Day is about reminding your mother how much you appreciate her, but I hope this tag will perhaps remind you this month how blessed you are to have a mother at all.
Now, I don’t want anyone getting the wrong idea about this tag. Trust me, I study psychology in college currently and I know there is no perfect relationship with a parent. If you have been abused, neglected, or abandoned by your mother then you probably will not enjoy the idea of honoring her. And you know what? There is nothing wrong with how you feel. She hurt you, and that hurt may never go away depending on how severe it was. Your mother may be an addict, a narcissist, an abuser, a cheater, a liar…the list goes on and on. I am blessed to have the mother I have, because I think of her as pretty close to perfect, but many are not as blessed as I have been.
However, (I know, that’s never a fun word to hear), we are called to honor our mothers. For me, that’s easy. My mother is my best friend and is the most amazing person in existence besides Jesus in my mind. Honoring her is the least I can do for everything she has been through, everything she has sacrificed, and everything she does daily to be the incredible person and mother she is.
But, like I said before, many don’t feel that way about their mothers and the last thing they may want to do is call their mom, send her a card, or give her a present for simply giving birth to them. (Trust me, I have a step-mother and two grandmothers I don’t speak to). So…how does one honor their mother in that case?
Pray for her. What she did or didn’t do in childhood has many ramifications, many of which you may live daily, and exposing yourself to her abuse for the sake of Mother’s Day is not a good idea and I don’t encourage it. What I have learned from dealing with other family members is that it’s okay to love and honor someone from afar. It’s better to learn to love and forgive someone from a distance than to hate and hurt up close. Don’t be ashamed for doing that. Honoring someone does not mean letting them hurt you anymore. Just say, “Thank you for being in my life as God willed it, I forgive you for what you’ve done, but I am going to love you and honor you from a safe distance.”
May I share some words of encouragement? I know it may make this tag a bit long, but I feel like there’s someone that needs to hear this:
- Your mother wasn’t kind to you, but that does not mean you are not worthy of kindness.
- Your mother wasn’t there for you, but that does not mean no one ever will be.
- Your mother abused you, but that does not mean you deserved it.
- Your mother lies, but that does not mean you don’t know the truth.
- Your mother manipulates, but that does not mean you can’t get control back in your life.
- Your mother loved you as she was capable of loving you, but God loves you unconditionally and will give you the love she was unable to give.
Honor your mother, whether it’s through a simple prayer or a sweet gift on Mother’s Day. If you can’t do it for her, do it for you. And, if you believe in Him, do it for Him.
The Questions for This Tag:
- What is your relationship like with your mother, if anything at all?
My mother is my rock and my backbone. She has taught me just about everything I know. She would ace any Mom test, if there ever was one. She’s hilarious, intelligent, and a great believer in God.
2. What is one thing you would change about your mother if you could? What is one thing you wouldn’t change?
Hummm…there are little “querks” she has, but I wouldn’t really want to change them. 😂
3. Who do you celebrate on Mother’s Day (your mother, step-mother, grandmother, aunt, etc.)?
Well, I celebrate my Mom because it’s Mother’s Day. And she celebrates her Mom, and so on.
4. What was the most valuable thing she taught you?
I can think of so many things that are “small” but super important.
- You can make anything bad good.
- Ambition and drive gets you places.
- Laughter is the best medicine. (Lots of people say this but she lives it out!)
5. What is one thing she does (did) that you would never do?
I have no idea. We’re a lot alike and like doing the same stuff. 😛
6. How do you honor her on Mother’s Day?
I usually buy something with sentimental value that I know she will either use or wear or appreciate. ❤ And I make her a homemade card. I would say I give lots of hugs, but I do that anyway. She has awesome hugs.
7. How has your relationship with her impacted the person you are today?
She has shown me to be a better Christian, daughter, sister, and friend. Like I said, anything I know–it’s probably from her. And that’s the way I like it. She doesn’t like to admit it, and she doesn’t think it, but she is an awesome teacher.
Thank you very much for reading. Thanks again to Kaelyn for nominating me! ❤